We had a crisis in our church choir recently, one that tested the limits of our forgiving kindness as individuals and as a group. I’m not sure we will move forward together as a choir, ever again.
And it’s all because someone made a mistake.
The mistake was innocent enough, yet resulted in everyone in the choir being privy to a comment that was meant to be private between two members only. Embarrassing, yes! But destructive and irrevocable, no. In my book anyway.
People are livid, and polarized immediately. Half the choir on one side with the flubber and the other half of the choir on the other side of the flubee. Now, there is no unity. No harmony. People are holding onto hurt feelings instead of behaving with judiciousness. Everyone makes mistakes; to perpetuate a hurt is worse than the original gaff. Whatever happened to forgiveness? To compassion? To doing unto others?
And I wonder about the music, since with all this personal tension, there is no longer any common ground.
Or is there? We sing about forgiveness, redemption, being welcome, being called. What good is it if we can’t put it into practice when there are bumps in the road?
We sing with our voices and our hearts. Hopefully, the music will serve to unite us as a choir once again. Let us sing a new song, unto the Lord!